Relationship blog

Relationship blog

söndag 30 oktober 2016

Seeing What Says He's Leaving

Everyone wants a heads up when a relationship reaches the point where their partner plans to terminate things. The sense of foreboding coupled with the possibility of loss causes everyone to jump at shadows. What would it feel like to have insight beyond the sinking sensation when a partner begins acting different? In general, the signs are there. They need to be spotted early, so the things do not end in a swirl of frustration and pain.


Sign One: No Planning, Only Postponing

Couples look toward the future. They may do so in small ways or for short periods of time. A clear indication of things heading in a wrong direction occurs when the forward momentum stops. Let's see how these factors manifest.

Lack of Foresight: When all talk of what is coming next ends, a relationship cease to grow. Couples have vast areas to explore and plan for. They can talk about living situations, the growth of family or even the state of their heart. If a partner has nothing to add within the countless avenues, they may have already decided they see no future beyond the now.

Pulling the Reins: The flip side of lack of planning can be seen in putting off future decisions. This can be done in a variety of clever ways. They may change the subject, look for reasons not tackle even pleasant things or pretend they are unavailable. One of the craftiest ways they may be demonstrating how they have checked out is by implying the person wanting a future is placing too much pressure on them.

Sign Two: Different Pages in Different Books

Strong relationships typically possess a good mix of shared and diverse interests. Being in lockstep in every area is not healthy because it does not allow for individual identity and room for personal growth. However, problems arise when the number of matching interests drop without being replaced or long held commonalities dry up like a neglected houseplant. Paying attention to small things like dropping leaves can be an early sign things are turning in the wrong direction.

Heart In Sky
Seeing What Says He's Leaving

Sign Three: Too Great a Distance in All Forms

Growing apart can be tricky to spot at first. Most partners attempt to guard against smothering someone. Even though squeezing too tight can be a risk, it is important to see how a growing gap demonstrates how an end may be emanate.

Physical: Being away for long periods of time and going to great lengths to be far away may indicate a separation of the heart.

Intellectual: Changes in once shared opinions or intellectual truths illustrate fractures of a once tight bond.

Emotional: The most painful of the three usually arise in dismissive things said, cold tones and stony silence leaving the remaining person to wonder if they have done something wrong.

These are three broad areas. As with any far reaching system, a healthy relationship will be thriving on multiple levels including the underlying roots. Communication proves a prime barometer of the status of a couple's future. One needs to stay alert as he will always let you know his intentions with what he says, does and shares. Or maybe the things he fails to say, do or share.

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måndag 17 oktober 2016

Getting back a dating ex.

Retrieving an ex when they have started dating almost always proves tricky at best. It is never impossible, but it can be very difficult. Rather than entering into a protracted battle to secure an ex once more, one should take a look at the relationship, determine what would be the best possible outcome and then take steps to make a healthy offer to move forward.

Assessing the Past and Present

The End: One needs to avoid being clouded by an unrealistic view of a former relationship. This means accurately seeing how things ended and asking challenging questions such as:


* Was there infidelity?
* How healthy was the relationship to begin with?
* If changes could be made, what would they be?
* What is going on now causing consideration of a return to the ex?

The Present: One cannot view things from a solitary standpoint. Loneliness, solitude and a lack of personal prospects coupled with the happiness of an ex bolsters a sense of hopefulness about getting back into a relationship. By turning a blind eye to an ex's current happiness, it can lead to greater damage especially if things ended well. Breaking things further may seem like a small price to pay. Unfortunately, ripples reach far beyond the shores of the present moment. This can stop a reunion before it even begins.

White rose with ice
Getting back a dating ex.

Looking to the Possible Results

People, especially those dealing with being alone while an ex has moved forward, tend to look at the rosiest of options. Rather than letting such thoughts live within the fertile ground of the imagination, one should execute an important exercise. Take a blank sheet of paper and divide it into three equal sections. At the top of the page, write "Good," "Bad" and "Ugly" into individual sections. Then, write out the scenario for each being as detailed as possible. Though seemingly childish or a flight of fantasy, this process will give clearer options moving forward. It may also give rise to more sobering aspects of the results of shattering a romance for potentially selfish gain.

Moving Forward

Fortunately, no relationship springs from whole cloth. The first steps will be slow. Even if things blossom into a rekindled romance, it likely will not happen for several months as trust is reestablished. For that reason, use these as markers along the way.

* Go Slow: Rushing to the point at which the old relationship ended, even if things were good, will likely end in another break up.
* Build Trust: Ignoring hurt feeling on both sides minimizes what was there including the positive parts.
* Accentuate Positives: Saying unflattering things about the current relationship or decisions made presents a needy face.
* Be Gracious: Trying to be warm and grateful for the person's role, in the past, present and future will mean more no matter what happens.

Only by realistically accepting the difficulties presented through this course of action can a person navigate the return into an ex's life. Their current relationship is only single hurdle being faced. If it is ignored or knocked down, you will never achieve anything more than greater pain. Be smart and look into their life with an open heart.

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